Two Hurdles to Expect When Pursuing Your Dreams

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We all know that pursuing big goals will not always be smooth sailing, and yet we freak out when things aren’t going exactly according to plan. Sometimes we need someone to tell us stuff we may already know (but can’t see through a cloudy mental state) in order to get the ball rolling again. Well, here ya go! (Oh, and would you please be sure to send me this link when I’M in a funk? Thanks—you’re a doll! 😉 )

1. Waning Motivation

Sudden lack of motivation for something you’re normally extremely passionate about is likely just a result of putting in so much time and excited energy into thinking and working on the project, and so you’re a little burnt out. Or you may be analyzing to death what was once just something you loved to do for fun in order to make it work as a business. (Something artistic types sure go through a lot.) Either way, totally normal.

When dealing with a lack of motivation, I find I either need to get closer to my source of inspiration, or even further from it for a little while.

  • You know what gets you inspired regarding your topic of interest and pursuing your goals. Read about it, go to a workshop, chat with someone who happily and successfully does what you’re trying to do, create a vision board—just expose yourself to whatever gives you that pot-about-to-boil-over feeling of joy and excitement every time, without fail. You’ll get back to being pumped up in no time.
  • Give yourself a little break (a few hours, a day, a week) from the project. Get involved with other interests, volunteer, exercise more, get more sleep, or relax with friends. This will likely rejuvenate you, and even provide new perspectives and ideas regarding your goals. Absence often does make the heart grow fonder.

2. Momentary Self-doubt

Even the most confident among us have days when we question whether or not we have what it takes to do xyz, even though yesterday we felt like we were sitting on top of the world. Maybe it stemmed from criticism from a coworker, a family member asking when we were going to get a “real” job, or just our lovely egos being their natural buzz kill selves. The point is, self-doubt happens sometimes, but we can’t let it drag us down.

  • List all the reasons why you would be good at what you’re trying to do. Recount the progress you’ve made thus far, no matter how small, and give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back for that. Tape this to your fridge, bathroom mirror, forehead…wherever you’ll see it often!
  • Try to look at criticism as objectively as possible, and do your best not to take it personal (even if you think it is). Just be real with yourself about your shortcomings, and figure out how you can improve at those.
  • Make a commitment to yourself not to be swayed by certain peoples’ negativity any longer than a moment. Forgive them for judging and making ignorant comments—they’re either doing so because they care and want what’s best for you, know nothing about the field you’re interested in, are not very happy with themselves, and/or simply have no home training! 😉
  • Our egos are really good at sneaking up on us when we’re finally making progress towards our goals. So if you start to hear Debby Downer in the back of your head, just tell her, “Thank you for sharing, but I GOT THIS!” in your BEST George Lopez voice.

Whatever you do, do NOT let these moments make you feel like perhaps you chose the wrong path, because they have happened to everyone who has ever made a living by doing what they love.

So go on and forge ahead! Expecting a few occasional bumps in the road such as waning motivation and self-doubt can actually make them a lot easier to deal with when they inevitably happen.

And they say Pisces aren’t realistic or logical. POW! 😉

Peace, love, and glamour,
Rika

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All growth and accomplishment involves taking a risk,
jumping from one cliff to the next,
leaving your comfort zone,
and leaping,
at least temporarily, into the unknown.

–page 75 from Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know by Barbara de Angelis, Ph. D

My Purpose Brought Me Here

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Welcome!

Two years ago, when I was 23, I hired life coach, Christine Faucher-Kelley, founder of Luminance Coaching. It was just over a year since I had graduated from college, and I was feeling stuck. I had always felt that there were big things I wanted to do with my life, but I wasn’t sure what those things were. (I had given up on my lifelong dream to pursue a singing career a couple years prior to this, and I was NOT loving the corporate environment I had slipped into due to the sheer need to generate income and begin merging into adult life. *Vomits*)

Yes, in an overwhelming world full of endless options, not knowing what you want to do with the rest of your life at age 23 is not too shocking these days. I could accept that. But I wasn’t okay with not knowing how to articulate what I felt I was brought into this world to contribute. Having always been a self-help junkie, I knew that I had to determine the overall “what” and “why” before I could figure out the specific “how”. I knew I first had to understand my life’s purpose, what I felt the world needed me for, in order to create my most fulfilling life.

Through lots of listening, gentle nudging, and asking some pretty powerful questions, Christine did end up helping me come to realize my life’s purpose: I believe I am here to bring more love, peace, and positivity into the world in a fun, inspiring way. Hey, it might be cheesy, but it’s the truth!

I’ll get into explaining why I feel my purpose is what it is in another post, but for now, just know that it’s lead me to want to create this blog as one way of carrying it out.

 

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So what’s the blog going to be about?

Setting aside my perfectionist qualities for once, I’m sort of just diving in here. I’m not 100% sold on the name which is why I do not have a .com for it. I haven’t designed the layout exactly how I want it. I’m not even entirely sure yet about the content structure, but I’m fairly certain it will contain the following:

  • My thoughts, observations, stories and questions regarding happiness, confidence, spirituality and other life topics
  • Tips from my own experience on how to celebrate and live one’s best life
  • Self-improvement book reviews
  • Powerful quotes
  • Poetry
  • Heck, might even throw in some video clips of me singing, simply because singing gives me joy!

The blog will be honest. It will be open. It will probably be kind of funny. It will not, however, be preachy. I’m a positive person, but I’m not someone who pretends to be happy every second and force-feeds New Age philosophies like some Stepford zombie.

I just believe in a cosmic consciousness. I believe that if more people radiated love, if more of us felt confident and happy within ourselves, treated others with kindness and respect more often, learned to view the world in an overall positive light, and realized that we can ALL shine at the same time, the world would change for the better. The more of us who do this, the more noticeable the change will be.

I would love the blog to be as interactive as possible, so your comments are completely encouraged! All I ask is that you do as Aretha would and keep it respectful. 😉

Talk soon!

Peace, love, and glamour,

Rika